This week’s post was meant to be something different, and I did not plan to talk about this. However, I finished university a few months ago now, and the reality of it has suddenly hit me hard.
PLEASE SKIP OVER THIS SECTION TO THE TIPS IF YOU DO NOT WANT A LONG WINDED VERSION OF THE POST…I JUST HAD TO WRITE AS I HAVE FOUND THIS QUITE THREPUTIC.
Anyways, continuing with the life story…
I never thought that I would be one of those people to lie around not knowing what to do with my life, or feel sorry for myself. However, I have found these past few weeks mentally quite draining, and I wanted to put a post out there to try and help anyone who is going through the same change as me.
Naively, I thought that I would just fall into a job and that the rest of this year would be much more of a breeze than those post-graduates who had gone before me had made out. But no, that didn’t happen. I have recently had this uneasy realization that every aspect of my life has changed and that now is the time where I can literally go and do whatever I want to do. I have little to no ties, and the world is now what I decide to make of it. Honestly, I find this terrifying.
My current life situation is that I am living alone in Newcastle, the city where I went to university, as my flatmates have moved out and my friends have gone home. I have a part-time job in a juice bar, trying to save as much money as I can so that I can 1. get out of my overdraft, 2. move to Manchester, where I am planning to live for the next few years, and 3. pay off the rest of my rent and bills. I am trying to hunt for jobs and flats in Manchester, whilst also trying to figure out how the hell I’m going to afford to live there. I don’t see going home for a prolonged period of time an option as I don’t have a bedroom there anymore (cheers Mum), and it is also a very small town with little to no opportunity. However, I am a social creature and I am finding myself in quite a dark place at the minute, with having minimal company and feeling the pressures of post-uni life.
So, without further ado, here are 5 ways that I have been trying to cope with change and the blues that graduating brings:
1 – ALWAYS TRUST YOUR GUT – With all the current changes, I have been receiving many pep talks off both my friends and family about the different routes that I should take. Although this really is useful and helps to give me an outside and fresh perspective, I have also been noticing that about many things in my life I have had a real gut instinct. If something doesn’t feel right, then don’t do it. Similarly, if you know deep down the right decision for you, no matter how hard it may be, then go with what your gut is telling you to do.
2 – INDULGE A LITTLE & GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK – With all the chaos of uni, it can be so easy to lose yourself in all of the work, and to actually allow yourself to relax. Whenever I had work to do, I would feel immense guilt if I was doing anything other than uni work. Although this is a good thing when you have a deadline looming with 3 days to go, it is also important to give yourself a break and to do things without feeling the guilt and pressure of the world on your shoulders. Now that uni is over, and I have little company with everyone going home, I have been allowing myself to indulge in Netflix marathons with absolutely no guilt (a few favorites being Untold Stories of the ER, and Deadly Women). I have also been allowing myself extra time in bed, and time to just completely chill out. Not only do you deserve it, but need it!
3 – WORKOUT – Make time to exercise. Not only is it amazing for releasing endorphins (the happy hormone), but also helps to clear your mind and make you think more clearly and positively. Whether it be doing home workouts via YouTube, joining the gym, or simply going for a quick run followed by some stretches, I really do find that it helps me to feel better about my current life situation, plus you will look better by the end of it! Win win.
4 – SAVE YOUR PENNIES – Now more than ever is a good time to start saving some money. When going through any change in your life, it is so useful to have a little bit of cash to be able to fund whatever you need in order to find a solution to the situation that you are in. For me, I need to pay off my overdraft, and fund moving to Manchester, whilst also paying off the rest of my rent and bills in Newcastle. Therefore, it is so important that I try to save as much as I can, so that i’m not stuck in the same place for longer than I need to be.
5 – DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO AND EVERYTHING ELSE WILL FOLLOW – Said my wise mother (if in doubt speak to your mum). I recently told my mum that I am thinking of coming home for a few weeks, as I am not happy stewing in my own company here in Newcastle. Don’t get me wrong, I do have a few people left here who I can bug to hang out with me, but I feel in my gut (see tip no.1) that something is wrong, and that maybe by going home and seeing my friends and family, I will find some sort of peace to my current situation. I was worried that if I go home I will not find a job and therefore not save the crucial money that I need. My mum responded with this tip and told me that if I do what is right for my mental wellbeing, everything else will follow.
So that concludes me to the end of the post. I really hope that this can help anyone who is going through something similar to me. Please comment below if you are in a similar situation, and any other tips that you might have.
Thanks so much for reading,
(cover photography: Annabel Carden. Styled be me)